Relationship Therapy for Neurodivergent Couples in New York & New Jersey
Different brains.
Shared Relationship.
Relationships are shaped by the meeting of two nervous systems. When one or both partners are neurodivergent, it's common to experience differences in communication, sensory needs, executive functioning, emotional expression, or ways of connecting.
Those differences aren't problems to eliminate. But they can become painful when they are misunderstood—by each other, or by the world around you.
Relationship therapy offers a space to make sense of those differences together.
You may be looking for support if...
Conversations keep turning into the same argument.
One or both partners feel unseen or misunderstood.
Different communication styles lead to conflict.
Sensory needs, routines, or executive functioning create tension.
Masking has made it difficult to feel fully known.
Burnout is affecting your relationship.
You're navigating a late diagnosis or changing understanding of yourselves.
You want to strengthen your relationship before problems become overwhelming.
My approach
My work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment theory, and the neurodiversity paradigm.
Many couples come to therapy having already tried communication strategies, relationship advice, or ways to "fix" recurring conflicts. But often the challenge is not a lack of skills—it is that each person has a different understanding of what is happening beneath the conflict.
Together, we'll slow down and explore the patterns that leave each of you feeling disconnected. We'll work to understand how each partner experiences the world, how your nervous systems respond under stress, and how your histories, needs, and protective strategies interact within the relationship.
Understanding comes before change.
When partners can begin to see the meaning behind each other's reactions, new possibilities for connection, repair, and trust become possible.
Every relationship is unique
Whether one or both partners are ADHD, autistic, AuDHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, therapy begins with your lived experience—not assumptions about what your relationship "should" look like.
The goal isn't to make either partner more neurotypical or force your relationship into a traditional model. The goal is to build a relationship where both people feel understood, respected, and able to show up more fully as themselves.
Together, we'll create new ways of communicating, repairing after conflict, and supporting one another while honoring each person's needs, strengths, and ways of being.
Serving couples and relationship partners throughout New York and New Jersey via telehealth.